This Is What’s Holding You Back : And How to Break Free

This Is What’s Holding You Back And How to Break Free

Tara Gunn
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It’s not money. It’s not time. It’s you. But here’s the good news, you can fix it.

Everyone has goals. Some dream of launching their first startup, writing a bestselling book, becoming financially independent, or scaling their business to the next level. But if we’re honest most never get there.

Why?

It’s not lack of resources. Not the market. Not competition.

The #1 thing holding most people back is their mindset specifically, the fear of failure.

And it’s costing you more than you think. Missed opportunities. Delayed dreams. A smaller version of the life you were built for.

But here’s the truth: this mindset can be reprogrammed. And once you shift it, everything changes.

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Fear of Failure : The Silent Killer of Ambition

We’re trained to avoid risk. From school systems to social expectations, we’re taught that mistakes equal shame.

But here’s what the data says:

“Failure isn’t the opposite of success, it’s the path to it.”

In a 10-year study by the Harvard Business Review, entrepreneurs who failed once before were 30% more likely to succeed in their next venture compared to first-timers.

Yet most people never start. Not because they can’t but because they’re afraid they’ll fail.

What Fear of Failure Looks Like in Real Life

  • You overthink every decision
  • You keep “planning” but never launch
  • You compare yourself to others constantly
  • You downplay your own ideas
  • You procrastinate out of perfectionism

Sound familiar? You’re not alone.

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The Real Cost of Staying Stuck

Let’s break it down. When you’re stuck in fear:

  • You miss the compounding effect of action
  • You lose time, the most valuable currency
  • You create a false ceiling over your growth

Quote to remember:

“You don’t rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”

James Clear

How to Beat What’s Holding You Back

1. Rewire Your Mindset with a Single Word: Experiment

Stop thinking in terms of success vs. failure. Start thinking in terms of experiments.

When it’s an experiment, failure isn’t a verdict, it’s data.

Try this:
Instead of “I’m launching a business,” say “I’m testing a product.”

It rewires your brain to reduce the pressure.

2. Take Micro Action

Big dreams paralyze. Small steps activate.

Example:
Want to write a book? Don’t plan the outline. Write one paragraph today.

Action builds clarity. Clarity kills fear.

3. Use the “Regret Test”

Fast-forward to age 85. Ask yourself:

“Will I regret not trying this?”

If the answer is yes, act.

Harvard psychologist Daniel Gilbert found that 84% of people’s biggest regrets were about things they didn’t do, not the things they did.

4. Build a Fail-Proof Environment

Your environment either fuels you or freezes you.

Surround yourself with:

  • People who are action-oriented
  • Systems that automate decisions
  • Tools that eliminate friction

Suggested Tools:

  • Notion (for idea tracking)
  • Focusmate (for accountability)
  • Telegram or WhatsApp masterminds

H3: 5. Redefine Failure Entirely

Failure isn’t falling down, it’s staying down.

Every successful person you admire has failed publicly, painfully, repeatedly.

The only difference? They used it.

The Mindset Shift That Changes Everything

Replace this:
“I don’t know if I can.”
With this:
“I’ll find out by doing.”

It’s not fake confidence, it’s earned clarity through action.

When you do this:

  • Your brain starts trusting you
  • Your actions align with your vision
  • Your results compound over time

Real Stories, Real People

Case 1: A 26-year-old from Cairo delayed launching his agency for 2 years. Once he decided to “just test” an offer, he landed a client in 48 hours.

Case 2: A Saudi mother of two feared launching her handmade skincare line. After one Instagram Reel, she sold out in 6 days.

Fear is a false wall. Tap it, it crumbles.

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Conclusion: It’s Not What You Lack. It’s What You Believe.

You have the ideas. You have the ambition.
What’s holding you back is not your ability, it’s your fear of finding out who you could really become.

And that fear? It’s beatable.

Step forward. Even if it’s small. Especially if it’s small.
The moment you take action, you stop being stuck.

The person you want to be is already waiting, on the other side of that first move.

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